About Tim


Tim Rymel grew up politically, socially, and religiously conservative. A product of his Pentecostal upbringing, he entered the ministry at age 15, but was conflicted between his deeply held convictions and equally ingrained sexual orientation.

In 1990, he sought help through one of the world’s oldest and most renowned conversion therapy ministries at the time, Love in Action. Convinced God had changed him, Tim shared the message of “freedom from homosexuality through Jesus Christ” around the country in churches, colleges, radio and television, working as the outreach director with Love in Action. He married a woman in 1995, and fathered two beautiful daughters.

But his world came crashing down when his wife announced she was divorcing him. For the next six years, in virtual isolation, Tim began to rethink everything he believed to be true. He went back to college earning two more degrees, including a graduate degree in education with a focus study on human thinking, belief and understanding.

He shares his powerful journey in the memoir, Going Gay (2014) in which he describes his seven-year involvement with conversion therapy ministry, and ultimate unlikely transformation from a political, social and religious conservative to a social justice writer and outspoken proponent of higher education.

He is the author of the upcoming book, Rethinking Everything When Faith and Reality Don’t Make Sense (2018), Going Gay (2014), and the business book, Everything I Learned About Management I Learned from Having a Kindergartner (2012). Tim has written dozens of articles and blogs as a contributor to the The Huffington Post and The Good Men Projectwhere he writes on the confluence of religion, politics, sexuality, and belief. He is also a member of the American Psychological Association, APA Division 15 Educational psychology, and the Society for the Psychological Study of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transexual Issues.

Tim lives in Northern California with his teenage daughters, his spouse, Abel, their dog, Habib, and a former street cat named Sam.